killjoy.dk articles All articles published on killjoy in any category tag:killjoy.dk,2015:en 2023-10-01T19:43:13Z tag:killjoy.dk,2023-10-01:188 Familiejalousi Må jeg godt bare være vred et øjeblik? Ikke tage hensyn, ikke være næstekærlig, ikke være glad på andres vegne men bare vred på mine egne? 2023-10-01T19:43:13Z 2023-10-01T19:43:13Z Goblin Mode https://killjoy.dk/p/goblin tag:killjoy.dk,2023-06-11:187 Kærlighedsdigt til Ballerup Snart flytter jeg fra min hjemby, Ballerup, for anden gang. Det her er det første i en serie af breve til Ballerup. 2023-06-11T14:30:05Z 2023-06-11T14:30:05Z L. E. I. https://killjoy.dk/p/isen tag:killjoy.dk,2023-04-12:186 I didn't plan to grow older in this body, but here we are In which I talk about it being my birthday and how I didn't plan to grow older in this body 2023-04-12T16:09:10Z 2023-04-12T16:09:10Z L. E. I. https://killjoy.dk/p/isen tag:killjoy.dk,2023-01-31:185 Cashing in the paycheck In which I think out loud about a Bright Eyes song and explain why it took me a while to get it 2023-01-31T21:21:10Z 2023-01-31T21:21:10Z Goblin Mode https://killjoy.dk/p/goblin tag:killjoy.dk,2022-12-31:184 Saying goodbye to 2022 It’s the last day of 2022. It’s time to say goodbye. I’m not very good at goodbyes. 2022-12-31T10:49:44Z 2022-12-31T10:49:44Z Goblin Mode https://killjoy.dk/p/goblin tag:killjoy.dk,2022-11-16:183 Om at miste et livsvidne Jeg tager de første skridt i retning af et farvel og en accept af, at Thorsen ikke længere er blandt os 2022-11-16T09:38:55Z 2022-11-16T09:38:55Z Goblin Mode https://killjoy.dk/p/goblin tag:killjoy.dk,2022-10-15:182 Being trans is being mistaken for a broken hammer Contemplating whether Heidegger's hammer even was a hammer and if it'd be happier as a chopstick 2022-10-15T12:31:21Z 2022-10-15T12:31:21Z Goblin Mode https://killjoy.dk/p/goblin tag:killjoy.dk,2022-10-10:181 Knock, knock. Who's there? Who? No seriously, who? I try to trace my frantic attempts to be seen for who I am, whatever that means, back to the beginning, whatever that means 2022-10-10T06:37:41Z 2022-10-10T06:37:41Z L. E. I. https://killjoy.dk/p/isen tag:killjoy.dk,2022-10-04:180 Trying (and failing?) to be a woman Thinking out loud about trying to be a woman but not doing a very convincing job 2022-10-04T17:15:29Z 2022-10-04T17:15:29Z L. E. I. https://killjoy.dk/p/isen tag:killjoy.dk,2022-09-24:179 Are you my daddy? An attempt to structure my thoughts about fatherhood, written through tears, as I waited to learn if my beloved godfather would survive yet another heart surgery. 2022-09-24T12:44:28Z 2022-09-24T12:44:28Z Goblin Mode https://killjoy.dk/p/goblin tag:killjoy.dk,2022-09-16:178 hvad nu hvis... Bare noget jeg havde lyst til at dele men ikke turde sige til den, det handler om 2022-09-16T23:16:57Z 2022-09-16T23:16:57Z Goblin Mode https://killjoy.dk/p/goblin tag:killjoy.dk,2022-09-04:177 Ideas from linguistics and how they relate to my autistic experience, part 2: Politeness and indirect speech acts Part 2 of a series of ideas from linguistics and how they relate to my autistic experience. This time we are building on what we learned in part 1 and trying to answer The Salt Question 2022-09-04T19:28:58Z 2022-09-04T19:28:58Z L. E. I. https://killjoy.dk/p/isen tag:killjoy.dk,2022-08-23:176 Ideas from linguistics and how they relate to my autistic experience, part 1: The cooperative principle Part 1 of a series of ideas from linguistics and how they relate to my autistic experience. This time we're laying the foundation for understanding pragmatics with a presentation of the Gricean maxims 2022-08-23T13:29:24Z 2022-08-23T13:29:24Z L. E. I. https://killjoy.dk/p/isen tag:killjoy.dk,2022-08-19:175 Er jeg lesbisk? En dansk oversættelse af The Lesbian Masterdoc En dansk oversættelse af The Lesbian Masterdoc, en moderne kultklassiker i det online queermiljø og en vigtig ressource for mennesker, som spørger sig selv, om de mon selv er lesbiske 2022-08-19T10:15:40Z 2022-08-19T10:15:40Z L. E. I. https://killjoy.dk/p/isen tag:killjoy.dk,2022-07-27:174 An unedited rant about monogamy A post in which I allow myself to incoherently rant about how exhausted I am with toxic monogamy and how it keeps infiltrating my existence. 2022-07-27T16:24:13Z 2022-07-27T16:24:13Z Goblin Mode https://killjoy.dk/p/goblin tag:killjoy.dk,2022-07-12:173 Det, som blev redigeret væk Takeouts fra den kronik, jeg for nylig skrev til Information. Grundet pladskrav måtte jeg slette en del, som jeg nu deler her. 2022-07-12T12:46:04Z 2022-07-12T12:46:04Z L. E. I. https://killjoy.dk/p/isen tag:killjoy.dk,2022-07-12:172 PSA Thank you for being your wonderful gorgeous self in this chaotic world. Keep at it. 2022-07-12T12:37:47Z 2022-07-12T12:37:47Z Goblin Mode https://killjoy.dk/p/goblin tag:killjoy.dk,2022-07-06:171 FAQ about my polyamorous practice In which I answer frequently asked questions about the way I do polyamory and conduct my relationships. 2022-07-06T16:52:42Z 2022-07-06T16:52:42Z L. E. I. https://killjoy.dk/p/isen tag:killjoy.dk,2022-06-28:170 Medunderskrivere på "LGBTQIA+-personer står sammen mod transfobi" Liste over medunderskrivere på "LGBTQIA+-personer står sammen mod transfobi", oprindeligt udgivet i Jyllands-Posten. 2022-06-28T17:06:23Z 2022-06-28T17:06:23Z L. E. I. https://killjoy.dk/p/isen tag:killjoy.dk,2022-06-26:168 20th Istanbul LGBTI+ Pride Parade Press Release Together we have force. We get our power from our resistance, and we continue to resist. As LGBTI+s who celebrate their dignity and existence on the streets every year in the last week of June, we are here with persistence in our struggle, hope for tomorrow, and the courage and solidarity we receive from each other. We were, we are, we will be! 2022-06-26T22:28:00Z 2022-06-26T22:28:00Z Istanbul Pride https://killjoy.dk/org/istanbulpride tag:killjoy.dk,2022-06-26:167 A selection of things sparking queer joy (because we really need that right now) Our joy is what they want to take away. In response, I share things which spark queer joy in me. 2022-06-26T09:05:15Z 2022-06-26T09:05:15Z Goblin Mode https://killjoy.dk/p/goblin tag:killjoy.dk,2022-06-17:166 On being too much In which I incoherently rant about how scared I am of being too much and how I got to be this way. 2022-06-17T16:35:30Z 2022-06-17T16:35:30Z Goblin Mode https://killjoy.dk/p/goblin tag:killjoy.dk,2022-06-10:165 Does it matter whether I was born this way? In this post I explore why the LGBT+-community struggle so much with embracing the idea of phases and argue for reconsidering the 'born this way'-narrative as a path to queer liberation. 2022-06-10T17:26:01Z 2022-06-10T17:26:01Z L. E. I. https://killjoy.dk/p/isen tag:killjoy.dk,2022-05-24:164 Living in a different temporal dimension from straight people A short post in which I think about what it means to exist in time and space as a queer person. 2022-05-24T13:15:30Z 2022-05-24T13:15:30Z L. E. I. https://killjoy.dk/p/isen tag:killjoy.dk,2022-05-17:163 A breakup letter to survivorhood(tm) Trying out the idea of rejecting survivorhood and arguing for why we might want to start uniting under the label of 'victim'. 2022-05-17T10:13:38Z 2022-05-17T10:13:38Z L. E. I. https://killjoy.dk/p/isen tag:killjoy.dk,2022-05-10:156 Intimacy could be abundant (or: What incels get right and why their solutions are useless) Thinking out loud about what incels get right about our crisis of touch and why their solutions are not only misogynistic, but also completely missing the point of how and why we need to rethink how we behave around touch. 2022-05-10T14:10:02Z 2022-05-10T14:10:02Z L. E. I. https://killjoy.dk/p/isen tag:killjoy.dk,2022-01-16:154 The girl who mistook herself for a proverbial hat rack I had to do the work of combining my own experiences and feelings to those very moral positions before I could progress. Let’s call it my version of “dealing with trauma” through 2021. I believe I am hardly the only person to have been through the same process, and I hope this text, apart from clarifying for some of my friends where I have been for 2 years, can inspire strangers, too, to do the work of understanding why we have this type of social violence in our communities 2022-01-16T18:50:56Z 2022-01-16T18:50:56Z Laura Mølgaard Tams https://killjoy.dk/p/laura tag:killjoy.dk,2019-03-24:149 Body politics and beauty Focus on beauty and looks is reestablished when many of the activists from the body positive movement insist that everyone is beautiful. But this is a reproduction of not only the conventional standards of beauty, it is also a reproduction of beauty as a marker of value. 2019-03-24T11:26:00Z 2019-03-24T11:26:00Z Andrea Storgaard Brok https://killjoy.dk/p/astorgaardbrok tag:killjoy.dk,2018-09-16:142 I went to Camp Hex 2018 I spent the last two days living in this perfect alternate reality with programming lessons, discussions, music hack sessions, 2D modelling projects, meme masterclasses, zine workshops & youtube karaoke fuelled by lots and lots of vegan snacks. I don't ever want this to end. 2018-09-16T17:31:47Z 2018-09-16T17:31:47Z Nynne Just Christoffersen https://killjoy.dk/p/nynne tag:killjoy.dk,2018-06-19:132 United against rape culture: Proud sluts walks the streets of Copenhagen once more On Saturday June 23rd SlutWalk Copenhagen will once again hit the streets of Copenhagen, raising a glitter slathered middle finger to slut shaming, victim blaming and sexistic double standards. SlutWalk 2018 is a celebration of diversity and sexuality and a protest against a culture that trivialises sexual assault. 2018-06-19T15:29:49Z 2018-06-19T15:29:49Z SlutWalk Copenhagen https://killjoy.dk/org/slutwalkcph tag:killjoy.dk,2017-12-06:114 And then there was sexism in photojournalism As I squat the spare bedroom in my friends' flat, my offender will speak in front of 1600 guest from a national stage, lauded as a national hero and the advocate of the weak and vulnerable. The man that fanatically sang the racist hooligan slogan "Let's go whites" in my face, the man that asked me to get a dick tattooed in between my breast with cum up my neck and the man that never paid me a salary. 2017-12-06T16:05:01Z 2017-12-06T16:05:01Z Nadia Narejo https://killjoy.dk/p/nadia tag:killjoy.dk,2017-10-09:107 Burka ban in Denmark, neo-nazi tech bros, Holocaust-deniers. F U 2017. Burka ban, white nationalist tech bro solidarity, Holocaust denier. Let's trace the connections between facisms on the rise around the European and white settler world. 2017-10-09T18:49:28Z 2017-10-09T18:49:28Z Emmett Minor https://killjoy.dk/p/minor tag:killjoy.dk,2017-09-07:105 Voting rights and the new 'feminist party' What does a feminist party even mean when it aims to include everyone who is feminist and some feminists would deny the right of other feminists to exist? Also - I can now fully attest to the fact that it is a proper silly idea to not let people vote on things that impact their lives. Voting is awesome! 2017-09-07T21:31:32Z 2017-09-07T21:31:32Z Emmett Minor https://killjoy.dk/p/minor tag:killjoy.dk,2017-08-21:103 24 hours of racism and transmisogyny in Copenhagen Nadia has been through 24 fucked up hours of racism and transmisogyny. She is pissed off and shaken and wants to channel this rage. I love her and I love to write - let’s go. The psychological effects of unrelenting racism and transmisogynist micro-aggressions deflect encapsulation: gas lighting, self-doubt, anxiety. 2017-08-21T11:15:27Z 2017-08-21T11:15:27Z Emmett Minor https://killjoy.dk/p/minor tag:killjoy.dk,2017-07-27:100 Gender pillow When you think you know something But you’re so fucking tired of this shit Sinuses pulsing, channeling a rhythm both offbeat and harmonious 2017-07-27T13:58:21Z 2017-07-27T13:58:21Z Elphias Doge https://killjoy.dk/p/elphias tag:killjoy.dk,2017-06-13:64 Casual bigotry in Danish schools Casual bigotry amount kids when you're an adult supposed to be leading/teaching/caring for them. 2017-06-13T20:08:38Z 2017-06-13T20:08:38Z Anonymous tag:killjoy.dk,2017-06-13:63 Kids, social hierarchy, and the sense of injustice Kids are amazing and kids are fucking horrible. They're actually just people and you better believe social hierarchies are at play. 2017-06-13T18:39:07Z 2017-06-13T18:39:07Z Elphias Doge https://killjoy.dk/p/elphias tag:killjoy.dk,2017-06-06:62 Unsafe spaces Unsafe feelings online 2017-06-06T20:02:27Z 2017-06-06T20:02:27Z Elphias Doge https://killjoy.dk/p/elphias tag:killjoy.dk,2017-06-05:59 Ungenerous feelings provoked by your blindness Rambling about times I have felt ungenerous because people don't get their fucking privilege 2017-06-05T16:53:59Z 2017-06-05T16:53:59Z Elphias Doge https://killjoy.dk/p/elphias tag:killjoy.dk,2017-05-26:57 Working through microaggressions Work through those microaggressions with role play! 2017-05-26T20:07:36Z 2017-05-26T20:07:36Z Elphias Doge https://killjoy.dk/p/elphias tag:killjoy.dk,2017-05-18:55 TERF time = rally time The TERFS are everywhere and I need a place to rage. 2017-05-18T08:58:11Z 2017-05-18T08:58:11Z Elphias Doge https://killjoy.dk/p/elphias tag:killjoy.dk,2016-11-03:48 This year’s salmon is rotten When LGBT Denmark chooses to ‘honor’ the Parliament’s Health Committee for their decision to move the diagnoses, they are giving a pat on the back to an institution that has actually done nothing for trans rights in practice. 2016-11-03T19:19:12Z 2016-11-03T19:19:12Z Transpolitisk Forum https://killjoy.dk/org/transpol tag:killjoy.dk,2016-08-03:44 Detransition: Stop this buzzword When I think about the trans and queer communities as a whole and some of the values I hope these communities hold close - I get discouraged when conversations about detransitioning come up as negative. If we all already acknowledge the fact that gender is fluid, and the fact that the binary is bullshit, why are we pissing on folks who acknowledge that fluidity and change within themselves? 2016-08-03T16:38:04Z 2016-08-03T16:38:04Z Rowen Quince https://killjoy.dk/p/rowen tag:killjoy.dk,2016-06-09:10 PRESS RELEASE: SlutWalk 2016 comes to Copenhagen SlutWalk is intended as a celebration of own choice, sexuality, personal ownership of expression and mutual respect. To call someone a 'slut', a 'skank' or a 'cheap whore' is to exclude them, and can be at worst be used in the justification of rape. SlutWalk challenges the idea ... 2016-06-09T14:14:49Z 2016-06-09T14:14:49Z SlutWalk Copenhagen https://killjoy.dk/org/slutwalkcph tag:killjoy.dk,2016-05-15:24 Transpolitisk Forum Press Release: Hold your horses At the same time the state of Denmark monopolized access to hormones and surgeries and turned up the pathologization one more level. No one mentioned this apart from a small group of transgender activists, largely silenced by the main stream media, who had just a few months before celebrated Denmark as a progressive state. 2016-05-15T12:20:28Z 2016-05-15T12:20:28Z Transpolitisk Forum https://killjoy.dk/org/transpol tag:killjoy.dk,2016-05-12:39 Danish Minister Of Health To Push For De-Psychiatrization Of Transgender Persons During nightly news last night, health care minister Sophie Løhde pledged on national radio to push for WHO to remove “Transsexualism” from their list of psychiatric disorders and further guaranteed that she will work toward removing diagnosis from the Danish system by January 1st. 2016-05-12T16:55:11Z 2016-05-12T16:55:11Z Laura Mølgaard Tams https://killjoy.dk/p/laura tag:killjoy.dk,2016-05-11:20 No-Cis-Men Separatism There was a time when I loved this idea and these spaces. Cis men take up way too much space in the world. Still, this approach certainly doesn’t preclude other varieties of bullshit – and that’s the stuff I’d like to interrogate. 2016-05-11T11:30:37Z 2016-05-11T11:30:37Z Emmett Minor https://killjoy.dk/p/minor tag:killjoy.dk,2016-03-01:21 Removing the diagnosis: Not the answer? It makes sense to retain a diagnosis for transgender people to ensure the right to this medical care. I’d love to help contest the paradigm that deems transgender a disorder by highlighting that our sick world’s refusal to to accept trans people is the problem. But in the meantime a lot of trans people need health care. 2016-03-01T17:44:18Z 2016-03-01T17:44:18Z Anonym https://killjoy.dk/p/anonym tag:killjoy.dk,2016-02-07:22 As a Danish trans woman, ‘The Danish Girl’ makes me feel ridiculed Blockbuster ‘The Danish Girl’ has been praised for taking up trans issues in a major Hollywood production. Unfortunately, this film is just one more in a long line of tragic, stereotypical portrayals of trans experience. Laura Tams wrote a danish review of the film for Alt for Damerne. 2016-02-07T15:33:11Z 2016-02-07T15:33:11Z Laura Mølgaard Tams https://killjoy.dk/p/laura tag:killjoy.dk,2016-02-06:23 Why does trans still have to be so tragic? Why not tell stories that insist that there isn’t anything wrong with being trans instead of again and again obsessing over the things that you, the people not living our lives, imagine are hard for us? 2016-02-06T18:37:16Z 2016-02-06T18:37:16Z Axel Pedersen-Nielsen https://killjoy.dk/p/axel tag:killjoy.dk,2015-07-21:40 Queer Normative Frustrations Masculinity is read as more serious than femininity in the mainstream. It shouldn’t come as a surprise that this also happens in queer communities. When I hear my queer, anarchist lesbian friend advised to cut off her long hair or have to scour a queer party for people presenting femininity I feel unseen – and sometimes, unreal. 2015-07-21T12:39:46Z 2015-07-21T12:39:46Z Emmett Minor https://killjoy.dk/p/minor tag:killjoy.dk,2015-06-07:31 Transgender activists invite themselves to speak at IDAHOT 2015 Originally only cisgender speakers were invited to IDAHOT – The International Day Against Homophobia and Transphobia but two transpeople invited themselves up – with backing from the event’s planners, Copenhagen Pride. 2015-06-07T20:02:10Z 2015-06-07T20:02:10Z Laura Mølgaard Tams https://killjoy.dk/p/laura