killjoy.dk articlesAll articles published on killjoy in any categorytag:killjoy.dk,2015:en2023-10-01T19:43:13Ztag:killjoy.dk,2023-10-01:188FamiliejalousiMå jeg godt bare være vred et øjeblik? Ikke tage hensyn, ikke være næstekærlig, ikke være glad på andres vegne men bare vred på mine egne?2023-10-01T19:43:13Z2023-10-01T19:43:13ZGoblin Modehttps://killjoy.dk/p/goblintag:killjoy.dk,2023-06-11:187Kærlighedsdigt til BallerupSnart flytter jeg fra min hjemby, Ballerup, for anden gang. Det her er det første i en serie af breve til Ballerup.2023-06-11T14:30:05Z2023-06-11T14:30:05ZL. E. I.https://killjoy.dk/p/isentag:killjoy.dk,2023-04-12:186I didn't plan to grow older in this body, but here we areIn which I talk about it being my birthday and how I didn't plan to grow older in this body2023-04-12T16:09:10Z2023-04-12T16:09:10ZL. E. I.https://killjoy.dk/p/isentag:killjoy.dk,2023-01-31:185Cashing in the paycheckIn which I think out loud about a Bright Eyes song and explain why it took me a while to get it2023-01-31T21:21:10Z2023-01-31T21:21:10ZGoblin Modehttps://killjoy.dk/p/goblintag:killjoy.dk,2022-12-31:184Saying goodbye to 2022It’s the last day of 2022. It’s time to say goodbye. I’m not very good at goodbyes.2022-12-31T10:49:44Z2022-12-31T10:49:44ZGoblin Modehttps://killjoy.dk/p/goblintag:killjoy.dk,2022-11-16:183Om at miste et livsvidneJeg tager de første skridt i retning af et farvel og en accept af, at Thorsen ikke længere er blandt os2022-11-16T09:38:55Z2022-11-16T09:38:55ZGoblin Modehttps://killjoy.dk/p/goblintag:killjoy.dk,2022-10-15:182Being trans is being mistaken for a broken hammerContemplating whether Heidegger's hammer even was a hammer and if it'd be happier as a chopstick2022-10-15T12:31:21Z2022-10-15T12:31:21ZGoblin Modehttps://killjoy.dk/p/goblintag:killjoy.dk,2022-10-10:181Knock, knock. Who's there? Who? No seriously, who?I try to trace my frantic attempts to be seen for who I am, whatever that means, back to the beginning, whatever that means2022-10-10T06:37:41Z2022-10-10T06:37:41ZL. E. I.https://killjoy.dk/p/isentag:killjoy.dk,2022-10-04:180Trying (and failing?) to be a womanThinking out loud about trying to be a woman but not doing a very convincing job2022-10-04T17:15:29Z2022-10-04T17:15:29ZL. E. I.https://killjoy.dk/p/isentag:killjoy.dk,2022-09-24:179Are you my daddy?An attempt to structure my thoughts about fatherhood, written through tears, as I waited to learn if my beloved godfather would survive yet another heart surgery.2022-09-24T12:44:28Z2022-09-24T12:44:28ZGoblin Modehttps://killjoy.dk/p/goblintag:killjoy.dk,2022-09-16:178hvad nu hvis...Bare noget jeg havde lyst til at dele men ikke turde sige til den, det handler om2022-09-16T23:16:57Z2022-09-16T23:16:57ZGoblin Modehttps://killjoy.dk/p/goblintag:killjoy.dk,2022-09-04:177Ideas from linguistics and how they relate to my autistic experience, part 2: Politeness and indirect speech actsPart 2 of a series of ideas from linguistics and how they relate to my autistic experience. This time we are building on what we learned in part 1 and trying to answer The Salt Question2022-09-04T19:28:58Z2022-09-04T19:28:58ZL. E. I.https://killjoy.dk/p/isentag:killjoy.dk,2022-08-23:176Ideas from linguistics and how they relate to my autistic experience, part 1: The cooperative principlePart 1 of a series of ideas from linguistics and how they relate to my autistic experience. This time we're laying the foundation for understanding pragmatics with a presentation of the Gricean maxims2022-08-23T13:29:24Z2022-08-23T13:29:24ZL. E. I.https://killjoy.dk/p/isentag:killjoy.dk,2022-08-19:175Er jeg lesbisk? En dansk oversættelse af The Lesbian MasterdocEn dansk oversættelse af The Lesbian Masterdoc, en moderne kultklassiker i det online queermiljø og en vigtig ressource for mennesker, som spørger sig selv, om de mon selv er lesbiske2022-08-19T10:15:40Z2022-08-19T10:15:40ZL. E. I.https://killjoy.dk/p/isentag:killjoy.dk,2022-07-27:174An unedited rant about monogamyA post in which I allow myself to incoherently rant about how exhausted I am with toxic monogamy and how it keeps infiltrating my existence.2022-07-27T16:24:13Z2022-07-27T16:24:13ZGoblin Modehttps://killjoy.dk/p/goblintag:killjoy.dk,2022-07-12:173Det, som blev redigeret vækTakeouts fra den kronik, jeg for nylig skrev til Information. Grundet pladskrav måtte jeg slette en del, som jeg nu deler her.2022-07-12T12:46:04Z2022-07-12T12:46:04ZL. E. I.https://killjoy.dk/p/isentag:killjoy.dk,2022-07-12:172PSAThank you for being your wonderful gorgeous self in this chaotic world. Keep at it.2022-07-12T12:37:47Z2022-07-12T12:37:47ZGoblin Modehttps://killjoy.dk/p/goblintag:killjoy.dk,2022-07-06:171FAQ about my polyamorous practiceIn which I answer frequently asked questions about the way I do polyamory and conduct my relationships.2022-07-06T16:52:42Z2022-07-06T16:52:42ZL. E. I.https://killjoy.dk/p/isentag:killjoy.dk,2022-06-28:170Medunderskrivere på "LGBTQIA+-personer står sammen mod transfobi"Liste over medunderskrivere på "LGBTQIA+-personer står sammen mod transfobi", oprindeligt udgivet i Jyllands-Posten.2022-06-28T17:06:23Z2022-06-28T17:06:23ZL. E. I.https://killjoy.dk/p/isentag:killjoy.dk,2022-06-26:16820th Istanbul LGBTI+ Pride Parade Press ReleaseTogether we have force. We get our power from our resistance, and we continue to resist. As LGBTI+s who celebrate their dignity and existence on the streets every year in the last week of June, we are here with persistence in our struggle, hope for tomorrow, and the courage and solidarity we receive from each other. We were, we are, we will be!2022-06-26T22:28:00Z2022-06-26T22:28:00ZIstanbul Pridehttps://killjoy.dk/org/istanbulpridetag:killjoy.dk,2022-06-26:167A selection of things sparking queer joy (because we really need that right now)Our joy is what they want to take away. In response, I share things which spark queer joy in me.2022-06-26T09:05:15Z2022-06-26T09:05:15ZGoblin Modehttps://killjoy.dk/p/goblintag:killjoy.dk,2022-06-17:166On being too muchIn which I incoherently rant about how scared I am of being too much and how I got to be this way.2022-06-17T16:35:30Z2022-06-17T16:35:30ZGoblin Modehttps://killjoy.dk/p/goblintag:killjoy.dk,2022-06-10:165Does it matter whether I was born this way?In this post I explore why the LGBT+-community struggle so much with embracing the idea of phases and argue for reconsidering the 'born this way'-narrative as a path to queer liberation.2022-06-10T17:26:01Z2022-06-10T17:26:01ZL. E. I.https://killjoy.dk/p/isentag:killjoy.dk,2022-05-24:164Living in a different temporal dimension from straight peopleA short post in which I think about what it means to exist in time and space as a queer person.2022-05-24T13:15:30Z2022-05-24T13:15:30ZL. E. I.https://killjoy.dk/p/isentag:killjoy.dk,2022-05-17:163A breakup letter to survivorhood(tm)Trying out the idea of rejecting survivorhood and arguing for why we might want to start uniting under the label of 'victim'.2022-05-17T10:13:38Z2022-05-17T10:13:38ZL. E. I.https://killjoy.dk/p/isentag:killjoy.dk,2022-05-10:156Intimacy could be abundant (or: What incels get right and why their solutions are useless)Thinking out loud about what incels get right about our crisis of touch and why their solutions are not only misogynistic, but also completely missing the point of how and why we need to rethink how we behave around touch.2022-05-10T14:10:02Z2022-05-10T14:10:02ZL. E. I.https://killjoy.dk/p/isentag:killjoy.dk,2022-01-16:154The girl who mistook herself for a proverbial hat rackI had to do the work of combining my own experiences and feelings to those very moral positions before I could progress. Let’s call it my version of “dealing with trauma” through 2021. I believe I am hardly the only person to have been through the same process, and I hope this text, apart from clarifying for some of my friends where I have been for 2 years, can inspire strangers, too, to do the work of understanding why we have this type of social violence in our communities2022-01-16T18:50:56Z2022-01-16T18:50:56ZLaura Mølgaard Tamshttps://killjoy.dk/p/lauratag:killjoy.dk,2019-03-24:149Body politics and beautyFocus on beauty and looks is reestablished when many of the activists from the body positive movement insist that everyone is beautiful. But this is a reproduction of not only the conventional standards of beauty, it is also a reproduction of beauty as a marker of value.2019-03-24T11:26:00Z2019-03-24T11:26:00ZAndrea Storgaard Brokhttps://killjoy.dk/p/astorgaardbroktag:killjoy.dk,2018-09-16:142I went to Camp Hex 2018I spent the last two days living in this perfect alternate reality with programming lessons, discussions, music hack sessions, 2D modelling projects, meme masterclasses, zine workshops & youtube karaoke fuelled by lots and lots of vegan snacks. I don't ever want this to end.2018-09-16T17:31:47Z2018-09-16T17:31:47ZNynne Just Christoffersenhttps://killjoy.dk/p/nynnetag:killjoy.dk,2018-06-19:132United against rape culture: Proud sluts walks the streets of Copenhagen once moreOn Saturday June 23rd SlutWalk Copenhagen will once again hit the streets of Copenhagen, raising a glitter slathered middle finger to slut shaming, victim blaming and sexistic double standards. SlutWalk 2018 is a celebration of diversity and sexuality and a protest against a culture that trivialises sexual assault.2018-06-19T15:29:49Z2018-06-19T15:29:49ZSlutWalk Copenhagenhttps://killjoy.dk/org/slutwalkcphtag:killjoy.dk,2017-12-06:114And then there was sexism in photojournalismAs I squat the spare bedroom in my friends' flat, my offender will speak in front of 1600 guest from a national stage, lauded as a national hero and the advocate of the weak and vulnerable. The man that fanatically sang the racist hooligan slogan "Let's go whites" in my face, the man that asked me to get a dick tattooed in between my breast with cum up my neck and the man that never paid me a salary.2017-12-06T16:05:01Z2017-12-06T16:05:01ZNadia Narejohttps://killjoy.dk/p/nadiatag:killjoy.dk,2017-10-09:107Burka ban in Denmark, neo-nazi tech bros, Holocaust-deniers. F U 2017.Burka ban, white nationalist tech bro solidarity, Holocaust denier. Let's trace the connections between facisms on the rise around the European and white settler world.2017-10-09T18:49:28Z2017-10-09T18:49:28ZEmmett Minorhttps://killjoy.dk/p/minortag:killjoy.dk,2017-09-07:105Voting rights and the new 'feminist party'What does a feminist party even mean when it aims to include everyone who is feminist and some feminists would deny the right of other feminists to exist? Also - I can now fully attest to the fact that it is a proper silly idea to not let people vote on things that impact their lives. Voting is awesome!2017-09-07T21:31:32Z2017-09-07T21:31:32ZEmmett Minorhttps://killjoy.dk/p/minortag:killjoy.dk,2017-08-21:10324 hours of racism and transmisogyny in CopenhagenNadia has been through 24 fucked up hours of racism and transmisogyny. She is pissed off and shaken and wants to channel this rage. I love her and I love to write - let’s go. The psychological effects of unrelenting racism and transmisogynist micro-aggressions deflect encapsulation: gas lighting, self-doubt, anxiety.2017-08-21T11:15:27Z2017-08-21T11:15:27ZEmmett Minorhttps://killjoy.dk/p/minortag:killjoy.dk,2017-07-27:100Gender pillowWhen you think you know something But you’re so fucking tired of this shit Sinuses pulsing, channeling a rhythm both offbeat and harmonious2017-07-27T13:58:21Z2017-07-27T13:58:21ZElphias Dogehttps://killjoy.dk/p/elphiastag:killjoy.dk,2017-06-13:64Casual bigotry in Danish schoolsCasual bigotry amount kids when you're an adult supposed to be leading/teaching/caring for them.2017-06-13T20:08:38Z2017-06-13T20:08:38ZAnonymoustag:killjoy.dk,2017-06-13:63Kids, social hierarchy, and the sense of injustice Kids are amazing and kids are fucking horrible. They're actually just people and you better believe social hierarchies are at play.2017-06-13T18:39:07Z2017-06-13T18:39:07ZElphias Dogehttps://killjoy.dk/p/elphiastag:killjoy.dk,2017-06-06:62Unsafe spacesUnsafe feelings online2017-06-06T20:02:27Z2017-06-06T20:02:27ZElphias Dogehttps://killjoy.dk/p/elphiastag:killjoy.dk,2017-06-05:59Ungenerous feelings provoked by your blindnessRambling about times I have felt ungenerous because people don't get their fucking privilege2017-06-05T16:53:59Z2017-06-05T16:53:59ZElphias Dogehttps://killjoy.dk/p/elphiastag:killjoy.dk,2017-05-26:57Working through microaggressionsWork through those microaggressions with role play!2017-05-26T20:07:36Z2017-05-26T20:07:36ZElphias Dogehttps://killjoy.dk/p/elphiastag:killjoy.dk,2017-05-18:55TERF time = rally timeThe TERFS are everywhere and I need a place to rage.2017-05-18T08:58:11Z2017-05-18T08:58:11ZElphias Dogehttps://killjoy.dk/p/elphiastag:killjoy.dk,2016-11-03:48This year’s salmon is rottenWhen LGBT Denmark chooses to ‘honor’ the Parliament’s Health Committee for their decision to move the diagnoses, they are giving a pat on the back to an institution that has actually done nothing for trans rights in practice.2016-11-03T19:19:12Z2016-11-03T19:19:12ZTranspolitisk Forumhttps://killjoy.dk/org/transpoltag:killjoy.dk,2016-08-03:44Detransition: Stop this buzzwordWhen I think about the trans and queer communities as a whole and some of the values I hope these communities hold close - I get discouraged when conversations about detransitioning come up as negative. If we all already acknowledge the fact that gender is fluid, and the fact that the binary is bullshit, why are we pissing on folks who acknowledge that fluidity and change within themselves?2016-08-03T16:38:04Z2016-08-03T16:38:04ZRowen Quincehttps://killjoy.dk/p/rowentag:killjoy.dk,2016-06-09:10PRESS RELEASE: SlutWalk 2016 comes to CopenhagenSlutWalk is intended as a celebration of own choice, sexuality, personal ownership of expression and mutual respect. To call someone a 'slut', a 'skank' or a 'cheap whore' is to exclude them, and can be at worst be used in the justification of rape. SlutWalk challenges the idea ...2016-06-09T14:14:49Z2016-06-09T14:14:49ZSlutWalk Copenhagenhttps://killjoy.dk/org/slutwalkcphtag:killjoy.dk,2016-05-15:24Transpolitisk Forum Press Release: Hold your horsesAt the same time the state of Denmark monopolized access to hormones and surgeries and turned up the pathologization one more level. No one mentioned this apart from a small group of transgender activists, largely silenced by the main stream media, who had just a few months before celebrated Denmark as a progressive state.2016-05-15T12:20:28Z2016-05-15T12:20:28ZTranspolitisk Forumhttps://killjoy.dk/org/transpoltag:killjoy.dk,2016-05-12:39Danish Minister Of Health To Push For De-Psychiatrization Of Transgender PersonsDuring nightly news last night, health care minister Sophie Løhde pledged on national radio to push for WHO to remove “Transsexualism” from their list of psychiatric disorders and further guaranteed that she will work toward removing diagnosis from the Danish system by January 1st.2016-05-12T16:55:11Z2016-05-12T16:55:11ZLaura Mølgaard Tamshttps://killjoy.dk/p/lauratag:killjoy.dk,2016-05-11:20No-Cis-Men SeparatismThere was a time when I loved this idea and these spaces. Cis men take up way too much space in the world. Still, this approach certainly doesn’t preclude other varieties of bullshit – and that’s the stuff I’d like to interrogate.2016-05-11T11:30:37Z2016-05-11T11:30:37ZEmmett Minorhttps://killjoy.dk/p/minortag:killjoy.dk,2016-03-01:21Removing the diagnosis: Not the answer?It makes sense to retain a diagnosis for transgender people to ensure the right to this medical care. I’d love to help contest the paradigm that deems transgender a disorder by highlighting that our sick world’s refusal to to accept trans people is the problem. But in the meantime a lot of trans people need health care.2016-03-01T17:44:18Z2016-03-01T17:44:18ZAnonymhttps://killjoy.dk/p/anonymtag:killjoy.dk,2016-02-07:22As a Danish trans woman, ‘The Danish Girl’ makes me feel ridiculedBlockbuster ‘The Danish Girl’ has been praised for taking up trans issues in a major Hollywood production. Unfortunately, this film is just one more in a long line of tragic, stereotypical portrayals of trans experience. Laura Tams wrote a danish review of the film for Alt for Damerne.2016-02-07T15:33:11Z2016-02-07T15:33:11ZLaura Mølgaard Tamshttps://killjoy.dk/p/lauratag:killjoy.dk,2016-02-06:23Why does trans still have to be so tragic?Why not tell stories that insist that there isn’t anything wrong with being trans instead of again and again obsessing over the things that you, the people not living our lives, imagine are hard for us?2016-02-06T18:37:16Z2016-02-06T18:37:16ZAxel Pedersen-Nielsenhttps://killjoy.dk/p/axeltag:killjoy.dk,2015-07-21:40Queer Normative FrustrationsMasculinity is read as more serious than femininity in the mainstream. It shouldn’t come as a surprise that this also happens in queer communities. When I hear my queer, anarchist lesbian friend advised to cut off her long hair or have to scour a queer party for people presenting femininity I feel unseen – and sometimes, unreal.2015-07-21T12:39:46Z2015-07-21T12:39:46ZEmmett Minorhttps://killjoy.dk/p/minortag:killjoy.dk,2015-06-07:31Transgender activists invite themselves to speak at IDAHOT 2015Originally only cisgender speakers were invited to IDAHOT – The International Day Against Homophobia and Transphobia but two transpeople invited themselves up – with backing from the event’s planners, Copenhagen Pride.2015-06-07T20:02:10Z2015-06-07T20:02:10ZLaura Mølgaard Tamshttps://killjoy.dk/p/laura